The title says it all: Stop self-loathing.
We all know that.
But, what about self-hatred?
We’ve all heard the phrase before: Self-haters have a lot of trouble finding happiness.
What are they trying to hide?
Well, there are some things you can do to stop them from killing themselves.
The first step is to stop thinking of yourself as a loser.
If you think that you’re not worth the effort, stop thinking about yourself as someone who’s worth less than you are.
And stop trying to convince yourself that you have to feel bad about yourself, or that you can’t change it.
It’s OK to have a little pity for yourself and a little empathy for others.
But stop trying that trick to blame others for your woes.
Don’t let self-doubt, anger, depression, or a host of other negative emotions keep you from finding joy and satisfaction in the things you love.
Stop thinking that you are the only one who’s going to enjoy yourself.
Stop comparing yourself to others.
If someone you love has an eating disorder, let them know that it’s OK for you to experience it, and that you don’t need to suffer alone.
And if you are a woman who has suffered from self-harm, let her know that you’ve had the same experiences and that she doesn’t have to be alone.
Stop blaming others for the things that you need to change.
When someone you know has been suicidal or self-harming, help them to find a therapist who knows how to help them.
When you think about suicide or self harm, help yourself.
Let your self-care take care of itself.
If that doesn’t work, try taking a step back and thinking about how you’re feeling and how you can stop yourself from harming yourself.
It will help you feel better, and it will help others.
Finally, do the best you can with the circumstances that you find yourself in.
But if you have problems with self-esteem, or you think you’re the only person who’s feeling sad or unhappy, then let the person know that he or she is not alone.
Let them know what other people are going through too.
That’s how you’ll help yourself get back on track in life.
Let’s get back to the article.
Happy self-sufficiency, friends!
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